On what one looks for in a church and persuading the lapsed to come back. Try the latter by example and suggestion not nagging, says the Revd Jane’s common-sense answer. I’ll add regarding the first that public recitation of the office is arguably a patrimonial reminder of something to aim at. As I suggested last week I’m not looking for the perfect parish. ‘Good enough’ is fine in this life. Again my zone is north of pure folk religion, south of traddie idealism and like both not Novus (east is nice).