Ah, Orthodoxy: the fashion of Tsars and Sultans since the Fall of Constantinople (defended by the last Emperor of the East, who died a Catholic).What strikes me here is the difference between the hyperdox Hermans stressing their true-church claim so they'd understandably discourage a mixed marriage or dare to try to convert the Catholic spouse, and the real Orthodox, normal people who date who they're attracted to and fall in love; their clergy know their sect is dying in America so they push the "sister churches" etc. jazz instead, trying to get us to raise the kids from those marriages in their church. Understandable for cultural survival; I almost feel sorry for them.
Bet it's fun to compare, say, Orthodox evangelism in America, such as it is, to what really happens at American ecumenical meetings:
Orthodox bishop: Come on! Raise the kids in our church. "Sister churches"! Pleeeeease? I'll be your friend!We should do something like that with the Episcopalians if ecumenism isn't dead yet: "Leo? Hi, Tom Wenski here. Remember when you received one of our priests and made that crack about the Inquisition? Well, the ecumenical service's canceled indefinitely. So long." Ditto to other Protestants who host episcopi vagantes' ordinations of so-called "Roman Catholic Womenpriests."
Catholic bishop: Forget it, Stan. And hey, wasn't one of your priests calling us graceless just now?
Orthodox bishop: Aw, you're mean!
Yes, the Orthodox are in a bind, dying out in their ancestral homelands and unable to keep the youth engaged here in the West. But surely this is part of the bad fruit harvested on account of the excessive ethnodolatry of the modern Orthodox? Without Rome, without a sense of the universal, it just becomes worship of the tribe. Back when I was in college I had a great attraction to Eastern Orthodoxy, and used to attend Mass at the local Greek Orthodox parish on occasion. I remember talking to a woman who was a convert once, and I asked her what the most unexpected part of her conversion was. She said, words to the effect that she thought she was becoming Greek ORTHODOX but it turned out she was becoming GREEK Orthodox.That reminds me of Holy Apostles Church in southeastern Virginia, which is joint Catholic/Episcopal. As you can imagine, alas, it never was precocious Anglo-Papalists and kind traditional-ish "Romans"; it's Sixties ecumenism. (From when mainline Protestants were strong in America and people wrongly thought the churches were about to merge: either the Anglicans were becoming Catholic or, ha, the Catholic Church was becoming mainline like American Protestants always wanted.) American Catholic liberals and Episcopalians; a few people in mixed marriages, mostly older now. It's orthodox, but barely; the Catholic bishop makes sure of that. They don't concelebrate or intercommune. It has two altars side by side where the Catholic and Episcopal priests do their respective things. I don't know if they've ever had an Episcopal woman priest; not as far as I know. I think it's endangered because the Catholic diocese doesn't have enough priests.
But, it must be remembered, the Orthodox for all their problems aren't like the Anglicans — the Orthodox have valid sacraments and are an estranged part of the Church, if in an irregular situation. The Anglican "Church," alas, remains fakedty-fake.
As you know, I'm as against indifferentism as you are, but yelling fakedty-fake often isn't the best way to bring Anglicans into the church. Yes, thanks to Vatican II, in England some Catholic and Anglo-Papalist (Forward in Faith: would-be Catholic; no women priests) parishes did things together: for example, an event starting with a prayer service at the Anglican parish church, then a joint procession, then Benediction at the Catholic church. Makes sense; all recognized the Catholic sacrament. Now at least some of those Anglicans are the British ordinariate.
(Related: Taizé co-founder Max Thurian ended up a Catholic priest, still in Taizé.)
It seems to me that mixed marriages with Episcopalians aren't that much of a problem, unlike Catholic/Orthodox, exactly because we're less similar. My guess is the Episcopalians now don't have a problem with the kids being Catholic, even though they don't like us (they think "Romans" are low-class and bigots); they don't require the Episcopal spouse to raise them Episcopal.
They may not like us but they have always recognized our orders, for example, which showed the way into the church for me.