Thursday, October 27, 2005

Some thoughts on marriage
First from the good C.S. Lewis, who famously fell in love and was married late in his life:
As I have said, I am not married myself, but as far as I can see, even a woman who wants to be the head of her own house does not usually admire the same state of things when she finds it going on next door. She is much more likely to say ‘Poor Mr. X! Why he allows that appalling woman to boss him about the way she does is more than I can imagine.’ I do not think she is even very flattered if anyone mentions the fact of her own ‘headship’. There must be something unnatural about the rule of wives over husbands, because the wives themselves are half ashamed of it and despise the husbands whom they rule.
Nicely balanced out by Fr Anthony Chadwick:
My God! I winced on reading this on a Roman Catholic traditionalist forum:
When a wife is right and her husband is wrong, the wife must still obey. Even if in time, the husband amends his error and re-directs his family to the wife's recommended path, that does not change the natural order of authority. So it is with the order of obedience between the Supreme Pontiff and the faithful (including Monsignors, Bishops, and Cardinals).
[The Nuremberg way. This is the evil of clericalism, not the good that is sacerdotalism. Even vowed religious don’t obey their superiors if ordered to sin (remember Audrey Hepburn in The Nun’s Story?) And isn’t this how the gay-priest scandal became such a big problem?]
I would find it difficult to believe that the person writing such tripe is married (if so I pity his wife!)*. I would compare the obedience of family life with that of the priests of the Oratory of St Philip: the give and take of community life comes from profound love of God and of the other members of the community. When love in marriage is true, sanctified by the Sacrament of Matrimony, the man and the woman fuse together in love and care for each others' needs. A man doesn't need to tell his wife what to do, because she already knows what needs to be done. Everything is decided in common in one heart and one mind.
From the same entry in Mere Comments
Alan Jacobs on Lewis and the attempted ordination of women
Arguments for the ordination of women were then rarely made by people committed to traditional Christian orthodoxy; that is why he brings into the argument the different question of whether it is appropriate to speak of God as ‘Father, Son, and Holy Spirit’. He assumes that people who want women to be ordained will also have serious reservations about all sorts of other beliefs that have historically constituted orthodoxy and that if we follow their recommendations we will find that we have ‘embarked on a different religion’ than Christianity.
Jack was right on that one.

*A Catholic friend, a happily married man, says when he sees some man online rabbiting on about male headship he imagines that saddo’s wife is probably having it off with the UPS delivery guy.

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